Cultivating Intimacy with Your Significant Other: Tips to Rekindle the Fire

Relationships, even at their best, are not fairy tales. While we, no doubt, love our partner through thick and thin, there will be times in every relationship when the romance seems to dwindle and the “spark” feels as if it has gone away.

When you find yourself in this season of your relationship, a boudoir session is a fantastic and creative way to reconnect with your partner! Nothing is more powerful than seeing each other through the intimate lens you share behind closed doors.

Boudoir sessions are a fantastic way to reconnect with your partner. But what happens when the session’s over and you’re back to regular life and your daily hectic schedule?

As a woman who has been married 20+ years, my husband and I are intentional about coming up with clever and exciting new ways to reignite the “spark” and rekindle our sexual energy from time to time. Here are a few things we've implemented recently into our daily life to help us remain focused on our connection and our marriage. As a result of these practices, we have seen a massive growth in our emotional and sexual connection and maybe it'll do the same for you!

be in the moment

Part of my new years' resolution for 2023 was to be more intentional and present with my time with my husband. This means putting my phone down after business hours and specifically when we get into bed for the evening. This simple act has led to both deep and hilarious conversations. It allows us to be there, in the moment, engaging and enjoying the company of one another.

Do the unexpected

I love to cook. It's one way that I show love for my family. Every evening my husband sits at the bar and we talk while I prepare dinner. Recently, I decided to start wearing a mystery piece of lingerie under my signature sweatpants and hoodie. He knows there's something underneath but he has no idea what I've chosen. The anticipation of when he gets to finally see it is exciting for both of us and makes a routine chore a bit more mysterious and exciting.

plan a date night and stick to it

We've also maintained a weekly date night, a night we can get dressed up and go out, away from the kids and the responsibilities of home. Understandably, this may not be as feasible for everyone, but I assure you there are many ways you can date your partner without going to an expensive dinner or spending a ton of money. This prioritizes time that's carved out for just the two of you. Whether it's a walk around the neighborhood with an adult beverage and conversation, a naughty card game where the wager is sexual favors, or a visit to your local adult toy store to browse the inventory and get some ideas for play at home. There are countless ways to spend time together, and truly connect.

I can promise you a couples boudoir session is an absolutely incredible way to kick off reigniting the spark with your partner. Especially because when you leave your couples session, you'll leave equipped with some NEW fun toys to enjoy later, help relive your experience…and maybe re-enact a few of the poses. It's never too late to re-energize your relationship with your partner and a sultry boudoir session will definitely help stoke (or stroke) the flames.